PEERS REGARDING CARE OF DEAD

Death has been a tragic event that I've always found myself deeply interested in or wondering about. Either witnessing death of a  family member or friend, the emotional and physical despair of people during that time. All makes me want to unravel my curiosity and questions about the topic. in order to further do so, i decided to interview three peers who were of the same background as i and others who differ from me. over the break i held these interviewees on the spot, a moment in time where three peers who fit my criteria of an interviewees. lucky me. 1 by 1 interviewing my selected peers and rewarding manipulate them them with thought filled questions on death that distracted them from social activity.

My first interview was of similar background as i. he was 17 and had particular views on death that somewhat mirrored mine. the first question i asked was, "what are the initial thoughts that come to your mind when you hear, death?" he responded, " its a sad thing that life has in store for all of us. people usually dont think about until it happens. i asked him if he could please try and elaborate. he elaborated, " people find themselves weeping and overly emotional towards those who die. that is normal, but you also have another side of death that is rarely looked at. which is the controversy  of money between, a burial or a cremation of another?" this asnwer stood out to me, specifically the controversy of money when one dies.this is because people have to choose how to care for the death depending on their financial capability? why isnt caring for dead free? this is because in our society nothing is free. theirs a distinction between the rich and the poor. and how they care for the dead. those who have money choose a burial, and those who do not have a cremation.

My second interview, was with someone who was of different backround. He was a 19 year old who was of jewish backround. i knew this was a great oppurtunity to catch his insights on death and how his jewish heritae impacts it. the one and only prepared qustion i needed to ask was, how do jewish people care for the dead? he responded that, " unlike many people we see today jewish people take pride in  not protesting death, but demonstrate the great value Judaism places ad the role in plays in life in general and the life of each indivudal person". i than asked him, what do they do, whats their "normal" practice? he stated, " the jewish do not beileve in cremation due to thier sufferings in their cultures and peoples past. Open caskets are forbidden by Jewish law, would be disrespectful to allow enemies of the dead to view them when thier in a helpless state. Bodies are buried in a simple linen shroud, so the poor will not receive less honor than the rich". this answer rally stook out to me because i was given an overview on how the jewish care for the dead. when it comes to those who are religiously oriented, it is certian that they care for dead much more than those who dont. jewish laws and no gap between how the poor and rich are treated are significant. particularly because it truly differ how an American cares for the dead, more money the more care. like i stated in my previous interview.

my third interview went fairly quick. since it was easy notice that the topic of death was uneasy for her. i tried to relieve the emotional distress of the topic but it wasnt possible. so i asked her a simple question, "what troubles you about it? she was alittle hesititant but she responded, " when death occurs expectedly, it hurts much more". she stopped at that. i than asked, "what do you mean? and whats the difference?". she elaborated, "usually people are ready for the death of another. some are sick and doctors put months on how long they have to lie. its said to out a date on someones life. because thier time is ticking. " good thing about dieing expectededly?" she told, " now that i think about it, it is, they get to choose how they leave". her last words truly stook out to me because she noticed that people who die expectedly go out in a much more hnorable but very bad way. "Bad", due to the emotional and physial components of dieing. but having your own idea on how you want to be treated after death is sometimes rare. others pick for you, choosing our self i a much more honorbale way of leaving the earth.

these interviews really shook me up. meaning it gave me other perspectives on caring for the dead other than my own. sometimes with controversial topics like death, im so closed minded with my point of view. but with this i was inspired and took acknowledgment in all their thoughts.  having three peers that were close to my age, similar and different to my background gave me great insight. money being a main component in how the dead are cared for is essential and should be changed. Jewish heritage having laws, and particular things that must be followed when someone dies and after. lastly the choices that are made, either the death prepared it themselves or another took it upon themselves to choose for them. all great things, three points that i choose to look further into.