HW 46 - Initial Thoughts on the Care of the Dead

BUDDHA- Even death is not to be feared by one who has lived wisely.

What comes to mind when I think of caring for the dead. I think of my own personal idea of how I want to be leaving this world and be "taken care of". Its all about how your going to be perceived after you physically left the earth. Some decide for the deceased while others plan it for themselves.  The typical norms in our present day culture is having a emotion filled funeral services, burials and cremations. Their are other alternatives but at this moment I'm unaware of them. So as of now, how I see my things and due to personal experiences. I find myself wanting to be cremated, placed in little sanctuary's such as chains for those I love and the remains be swept away by the ocean during a ceremony.

Psychologically an individual can not do nothing to forget about ones they love. We always hear these words when death strolls around or even the movies we see on television. " I didn't even get to say goodbye". Funeral's or ceremonies are a way to do so. to me, i don't see funerals as being so great.                                                                                       

Not too long ago by grandmother passed. A ceremony that many of us like to call a funeral was held in remembrance of her. Sadness flowed through the whole room. Tears, scream, and at time pure silence packed the room of sounds. Why is sadness at a funeral a repeated thing? Why a funeral? It was hard for those who spoke in remembrance of her to even speak because the fact of death spread udder negativity around the room. After witnessing exactly what a funeral is like. I see myself wanting something different. Something that isn't so drenched in sadness. I would like my service or time in remembrance to be pleasant. No need for obsessive black clothing, no need for loss of words. Speak of memory's. Laugh and cry. Give acknowledgment to the past, live with my memory. lastly being let loose, let free into the sunset aside with the ocean. cremated.

The commotion of a family of whether or not their loved one should be cremated or buried brings commotion and unneeded stress at a very emotional time. people force these norms just to really get it out of the way. i saw it with my own eyes. money, this and that, what we need, what needs to be done. its all unnecessary to me. to me i feel being buried in the ground isn't a good thing, being placed far from your loved ones isn't a good thing. being placed in the ground with insects who can possibly harm your body is another one. being cremated now i feel is personally better for me. because i want each person to hold something they can remember me by, not travel to come say hello. my remains being put in a shrine to be let loose in ocean. floating away, saying a pleasant goodbye. RATHER THAN A SAD ONE. Thats how i see it happening, imaginative but still realistic.